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Time Wasted You Never Get Back
Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
May 22 and May 26th, 2014
Copyright May 2014
Time Wasted you never get back to invest in yourself and your future. If you don’t live each moment wisely now, you will only have a bunch of lackluster memories and regrets.
Be your best friend and only associate with positive people who are not rude, who do not yell and wouldn’t think of hurting you if their life depended on it. Your goal is to find people who treat you as good as you treat them-which should be with dignity and respect.
Be a giver and do small things for no reason other than you are able to. Not only will it give you countless memories and smiles when you recall all the times that you made a difference in someone’s life, but it will enrich your life too.
Don’t mope about family members who aren’t supportive.
Count your blessings and the friends in your life now as petals of a rose that blooms in the vase of your heart.
When you add enough of those people together, you have a “Bouquet of People” who enrich your life and who you can always count on to care about you. They are your FAMILY. The TRIED and TRUE of HEART, the Kind & Loving-
Those people are who make you shine like an Aurora Borealis light in the night sky.
If a person is there for you in the worst of times, they will be there for you to celebrate the best of times! Remember that.
People change. When people change for the worst, you do the same and change too by not including them in your life!
You owe it to yourself to only let the best in your world.
Making wise choices are a privilege we should use more often.
If someone is helping you, loving; keep them around for a while.
If life was a big brick of Cheddar the bad people are like mold on cheese. Watch out because that “mold” could spread on you and ruin the whole piece!
(People love that one when I tell them! I love picturesque analogies. You remember them!)
Sometimes blood relatives suck blood instead of offering health promoting benefits. If you are sick when you see someone, don’t see them. If the person upsets you uncontrollably-don’t see them. If you have ulcers and cannot afford the ulcer medicine, like I once had-remove the source of the ulcer! I did and I was related to 3 of them! I tell you not because I am flaunting this fact, but because I want to “liberate you” to know it is perfectly fine to not associate with someone-family or not.
When I looked up the meaning of “family” in the Webster Dictionary, I was astonished to see so many variations of the word. For purposes here, I like this basic definition:
“A people or group of people united by certain convictions.”
Although this one fits the general term we think of as a family unit:
“The basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children.”
If you find that you are always agitated, upset emotionally when you are around someone-simply remove them. It is OK. No horrible repercussions will happen from doing do, other than you exercising your right to be an adult.
By the same token, associate more with those who value what you value, care about what you care about and don’t have a selfish mentality to only focus on them.
Almost three pages later and 600 words later, I am searching for the words that will sum up this article.
Everything has a chain reaction. Make every action positive in your life, including the people you associate with and the activities you do, as well as the words you say. By making a conscious effort to do the things outlined here, as well as employing positive self-talk and not allowing negative, self-talk or words to materialize, you will be editing your life.
I was married to a rocket scientist for 15 years and I think I am still part “engineer”. Engineers are modest people who always think of what they do in terms of “one of the group”, never taking credit for anything really.
I remember when I graduated at the top of my class at Chapman University in their Master’s Certification program in 1997. I was selected by my peers to run a class at The Summit Meeting 1997 that year. People paid $250 each to hear me speak and teach about what epilepsy was and wasn’t, how you acquire it and about the many falsehoods. I was the CEO & Founder of The Epilepsy Connection at the time. I created a PowerPoint Presentation with animations and had an overhead with transparencies that illustrated the many psychological aspects a person deals with when they have the invisible disorder.
In order to say the main points and to create the thing, I remember Mark-my ex-husband the rocket scientist, telling me-
“Do it this way instead: Cross off everything that is false and you will be left with the truth.”
I was doing it the opposite way but after he said that, I couldn’t believe how easy it was to arrive at the main points I wanted people to walk out of there with.
I say this because; you want to represent the truth and purity of intention with no hypocrisy or manipulative people around you. When you think you have found anything other than the truth and the best it can offer, edit it, so you will always be left with the truth, and what represents you the best.
As for the presentation I did for the people at Chapman U. I told them that a “friend of mine” had the disorder and I know I could help others who had it.
At the end of the presentation, I told them “The friend was me.”
People had tears in their eyes, and many did a standing ovation, and came and looked at me saying, “I never would have known!”
I looked back and said, “I know. People with epilepsy can do anything anyone else can and anyone at any age can acquire it by a fever, convulsions or a coma or a blow on the head. I had all of those things and nearly died before my second birthday. I have nearly died 4 times in my life and only want the best of the world to come my way and give the best back as long as I live.
You adapt and make the most out of the situation in every way you can.
Like what I am doing tonight.
The original plans of making my own version of El Pollo Loco’s Pollo Bowl with Mexican Rice, cooked pinto beans, chunky salsa and diced up rotisserie chicken went up in flames on Valentine’s Day evening. So being that I am the master of adapting to fallen plans, I decided to meet a friend at El Pollo Loco and eliminate the whole cooking, chopping & cleaning thing.
I had a Chicken Guacamole Bacon stuffed quasadilla, and was shocked by the size of the thing!
My friend arrived and we tried their new Chicken Tortilla soup, which had big pieces of chicken and veggies in it and was one of the closest to what I would make. You get chunks of veggies & chicken in every bite, with minimal broth.
Across from me was a nice family: Yolanda, Jesus and Myra.
When I wished them a happy Valentine’s day, she looked at me and my bandaged hand and said I taught piano, which I did and will when my hand heals. She remembered me and my mom and dad eight years before!
I couldn’t believe how she remembered the conversation, when she told me, I remembered. Myra was only 8 years old and now she was a beautiful 16-year-old young lady, far from the little girl I remembered seeing.
She asked me how I was doing, and then how mom and dad were doing. I had to tell her that dad died a year ago of congestive heart failure and mom has Alzheimer’s disease and is being taken care of by a staff of people now.
Yolanda’s father also passed away last year and she knew the meaning of seeing things differently once they’re gone.
I felt happy she remembered me so vividly and it made me feel as though I was special enough to not be forgotten.
We hugged eachother and felt a special bond as her eyes twinkled and mine did too…and exchanged numbers so we could get together some time.
Life is funny isn’t it-the people we meet, the unique situations and miraculous moments and special times that put a smile on your face and a glimmer in your eyes and warmth in your heart.
To think I could have made such an impression on Yolanda that she would remember so much by hearing me speak…makes me realize how we all make impressions on people during the coarse of our lives.
Two nights before I sat next to a good friend of mine at In N Out Burger who was sitting with her two beautiful daughters and husband.
Seeing her was like seeing a star shine in a dark black sky, since an hour before I was at The Huntington Beach Hospital having my hand wrapped in gauze and bandages by a beauiful, blonde, blue-eyed female doctor, so my hand would hurt less and heal more quickly.
I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day, and if you worked, I hope you can enjoy time with someone you care about soon.
I didn’t have romance and there weren’t hot bodies touching under starlit skies, but I enjoyed fun times with a friend, watching “Everybody Loves Raymond” comedies and had a good laugh-which by the way, is an elixer of youth.
Romance, to me, involves a connection of minds, intellect, spirituality, common interests and a kind of chemistry that is unspoken.
I got a pretty bouquet of flowers to look at in the morning by a gentleman friend and a red bud rose with baby’s breath from another. I love flowers, hearts, and antique laces, cameos and pearls and nice fragrances. Some of the girly things that bring me that magic word JOY.
What brings you JOY?
I wish the 712 followers of Totally Inspired Mind: Where Positive Minds Congregate health of mind and body and peace of mind.
And I also wish you all to have jobs that more than pay the bills and leave you with some to save and some to give away to those who need it or special causes you believe in.
Paulette Le Pore Motzko
February 15th, 2014
Paulette L. Motzko
Learning new things is something I have loved since very young and my mother taught me to read when I was four years old. I learned how to sound out words and understood prefixes and suffixes at an early age so it was like a game to figure out the meaning of big words.
If I wasn’t playing a song on the piano, I had my happy contented head buried in a good book or cook book.
This love of language then progressed into writing the lyrics to songs, of which I have 50 with copyrights in the Library of Congress, and would love the world to hear them one day. It has always been one of my dreams to have them recorded in a nice studio with instruments and arranged. I met someone recently who is a recording engineer, who I hope to make that a reality.
Back to Ernest Dimnet’s thought provoking poignant quote about concentration.
“Certainly we cannot help thinking any more than we can help breathing, but, just as we can choose to breathe pure air in a pine wood on a high hill, we can place our mind where the images it will work upon will be of a higher nature.” -by Ernest Dimnet from “The Art of Thinking”
I got lucky and opened up three books that said on their spine “The World’s Greatest Literature” that were in my friend’s house sitting lonely on the shelf. A good book always longs for someone to hold it and caress its pages and love it, remember it and hopefully, if it is a really great book pass it down to others and share its glory, knowledge, lore and the many benefits within its covers. I guess a great book has a lot in common with me! Except I want my gifts and talents to be shared with the right people who can appreciate them!
When I spotted Ernest Dimnet’s “The Art of Thinking” Copyright 1928 by Simon & Schuster and read a few of the paragraphs-(I learned how to speed read but only use it to know if I want to read something in depth)-and I knew it was something special- and it was.
I was also surprised in the three volumes how many authors I had never heard of, considering I was in Honors English and took every class Garden Grove High School taught and loved each one of them.
Writing and doing the exercises my great teachers had me do was as though I was a sculptor carving marble or alabaster until I chiseled the words to my liking. Reading great literature is like a journey into some of the greatest minds that ever lived. Learning about the lives of the writers and what kind of people they were and where they lived helped me understand why they wrote what they did as well.
The more you read the more it exposes you to new ideas, new cultures, new ways of thinking and in general new horizons. Every book alters the course of your life because you will never be the same after you read it. After all, any time a person gains new knowledge they are in a sense “enlightened”. Remember Helen Keller when Anne Sullivan fingerspelled the word W-A-T-E-R in her hand? At that moment she realized that everything in the world had a name and her dark world void of sound or images was lit with the knowledge of the world around her.
Sometime go to your public library or look on GoogleBooks.com and read just one of the books Helen Keller wrote. You will be awed and amazed at how well she wrote and what a literal genius she became, especually since she was totally blind and deaf!
Books you think are boring now for required reading in school or college you’ll find years later a deeper appreciation of having read it will emerge; that is what I discovered.
In regards to solitude, Ernest Dimnet made me realize that the greatest minds of all time craved solitude so they could think and work out problems and CREATE. Now I don’t feel so bad and like a “loner” when I take that special time. It is needed if you problem solve, work on what I call “cerebral stuff” above-the-neck-stuff a lot.
There are happy mediums for everything in life and balance in life and the types of activities you incorporate are key to a happy, healthy life too. For instance, if your job entails computer work, which is largely solitary and requires concentration and is sedentary, that means that you have to set LIMITS. No more than an hour at a time with 15 minute breaks. If you do more you begin to turn into what I call a “cyborg” at Starbucks! I see people all the time almost hooked to the computers with their eyes glazed over, not seeing anything or anyone around them. It scares me when I see that. People like that are desensitized to everything around them, to where they don’t see or hear anything-since an iPod is usually playing making it impossible to hear what is going on around them.
Now mind you I go to lots of places and do work and have music playing on my iPod, but I am never so engrossed I cannot talk to a human being and pay attention to my surroundings. Remember this:
Computers are Things
Before Computers There Were People
Unplug yourself and phones for at least an hour or more a day.
You will feel your blood pressure go down, feel more relaxed and not be “hooked to anything” but the moments, the sounds of the birds or the person next to you talking to you.
When I was going to college years ago in 1984 and graduated in 1986 before my marriage to the rocket scientist-(which lasted a good fifteen years)…cell phones hadn’t been invented yet and Twitter and Facebook were a pipe dream.
Hard to image how I existed, but I did.
In relation to solitude Ernest Dimnet wrote:
“The Art of Thinking is the art of being one’s self and this art can only be learned if one is by one’s self.”
He also wrote, which is food for thought:
“Solitude produces exhilaration of consciousness, the consciousness of our innermost, whatever that may be.”
I hope these quotes from great minds like Ernest Dimnet and myself help you look at life in a different way and to capture the lost minutes in ways you never thought of.
Did you know that Lamoignons had a wife who always kept him waiting for dinner? He kept a pad of paper and a pen by the table and wrote during that time. All of those captured minutes, as I call them were transformed into several volumes of spiritual meditations.
Since I commute on the bus every day for 45 minutes one way, I am going to take my pad and pen with me and try writing and see if I can manage to do it. I do listen to my iPod or a good PodCase on iHeart Radio or live Radio Show, which is entertaining and as good as any “book on tape” or “Audio Book.”…and free if you have a SmartPhone or iPod.
Are there minutes you can “repurpose” rather than waste? If you commute on a bus bring a book, bring an old fasioned pad of paper and a pen. If you can’t afford a computer for a word processing program like MS Word like I swear by, everyone can afford a pad of paper and pen. Also, if you have a SmartPhone, you can write on a blog or on the NotePad or on a file on Box.com-a collaboration tool that allows you to collaborate with anyone in the world on books or anything you desire. (The files are private so only you and the people you choose can see or manipulate them!)
Books will never ever be outdated. There is a place for Nooks, Kindles, iPods and books with covers and pages.
Pros for a book: No electricity and moderately priced and you can pick one up in a flash of a second and put it away when you feel like it. Many things are only available in book form today. Plus there is something special about reading a book that is nearly 70 years old and in the original, unmodified text.
Many like The Fannie Farmer Cook Book have been through so many revisions, Fannie Farmer isn’t even mentioned in newer printings!! She created the first cooking school and regulated measurements that we know today like teaspoons, cups etc. Before that it was a “pinch of this or that”. To elimate the founder of The Boston Cooking School is a major blunder, but that is what happens when too many editors touch something. The original message gets lost key elements are left out. Revisions in books are like having different cooks adding their own ingredients to a pot of soup. After twenty years worth, the book becomes nothing like what the original author wrote. I like to read what the author wrote. It is part of history.
Make sure during your day, after exercising your brain for hours that you take time and do some yoga, take a nice walk and reflect on the day. It will make you feel better, clear your mind and create a balance by exercising yourself “below the waist”. That is something I am working on and am using my BodyTrac that is like a sophisticated rowing machine.
To sum this, if you are not American or are from another country and English is your second language, LEARN ENGLISH FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN and YOU and YOUR CHILD’s FUTURE. Children in America are required to learn English in schools but their parents are not.
The pros to learning English:
You will be able to communicate easily to anyone in the United States.
You can communicate with your children, make more friends and get higher paying jobs. I am sure you never thought about reading, writing and English literacy that way before. I hope if I did one thing by writing this, that I inspire people to learn and become more than what they are by learning a basic skill kids learn in grade school. Literacy will change your life for the better in countless ways.
Those reasons should be enough to get into an adult literacy course. Most libraries offer them for FREE, or they can direct you where to go to learn English in your area.
We as human beings, have many parts to our beings. The trick is to accomplish what you need to without overdoing it in any one area.
Allow yourself at least an hour or more of solitude and pay attention to how much better you feel and how much more productive you are when you are around people.
It is true.
Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Copyright January 2014
Clouds and Blue Sky Image from Google Imgages
All other photographs taken by Paulette L. Motzko with exception to Paulette Le Pore at her Nanny’s Henry F. Miller piano, which was taken by my dad Ernest C. Le Pore when I was 9 years old. The year I began playing piano & writing music, cooking and exploring writing.
Take the best life has to offer and keep it and then leave the rest behind.
It is true that I don’t care for many of the actions of our country’s leaders and hope that we as a nation take a smarter, more responsible turn for the better soon.
I hope companies like Starbucks getting into the political arena, will make those in The White House think about creating a sound, workable budget for our nation before the year’s end. I signed Starbuck’s ComeTogetherNow petition urging congress to end..and it did shortly after.
I signed it and urged my friends to sign, even speaking out in my local Starbucks explaining why it would be a great idea to sign it to everyone in the Starbucks. People smiled and thanked me for telling them, and they signed it and wanted to read my blogs.
We all, no matter who we are can make a difference, and don’t ever underestimate or undermine your power or influence in changing what you don’t like in the world.
Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Veteran’s Day 2013
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