Who Needs a Good Morning Hug? Hug The One You’re With & You’ll be Hugged Too!

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Good morning to all the 1,507 followers of Totally Inspired Mind: Where Positive Minds Congregate.
Thank you for sharing the stories, points and words of wisdom I write and hand select each day.

When you wake up in the morning don’t just run to get your morning cup of coffee (like I swear by) but show LOVE and THOUGHTFULNESS to every person who is in your path.

Set the coffee maker up the night before, make lunches the night before, set your clothes and accessories out & even take a shower the evening before (it will relax your muscles and help you sleep better), so all you do is wake up, be grateful you did wake up for another day on this great planet we share, and drink coffee (or tea or whatever you like), pray, meditate and get ready.

Allow yourself TIME so you can relax and NOT HURRY. Hug your significant other and tell your kids you love them as they head for school & work.
Show yourself you love yourself enough to give yourself TIME the night before and when you awaken so YOUR ATTITUDE will be BRIGHT along with the RISING SUN..

Written by Paulette L Motzko
October 29th, 2014
Copyright, 2014

Be True To Your Best Self

Time Wasted You Never Get Back
Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
May 22 and May 26th, 2014
Copyright May 2014
Time Wasted you never get back to invest in yourself and your future. If you don’t live each moment wisely now, you will only have a bunch of lackluster memories and regrets.
Be your best friend and only associate with positive people who are not rude, who do not yell and wouldn’t think of hurting you if their life depended on it. Your goal is to find people who treat you as good as you treat them-which should be with dignity and respect.
Be a giver and do small things for no reason other than you are able to. Not only will it give you countless memories and smiles when you recall all the times that you made a difference in someone’s life, but it will enrich your life too.
Don’t mope about family members who aren’t supportive.
Count your blessings and the friends in your life now as petals of a rose that blooms in the vase of your heart.
When you add enough of those people together, you have a “Bouquet of People” who enrich your life and who you can always count on to care about you. They are your FAMILY. The TRIED and TRUE of HEART, the Kind & Loving-
Those people are who make you shine like an Aurora Borealis light in the night sky.
If a person is there for you in the worst of times, they will be there for you to celebrate the best of times! Remember that.
People change. When people change for the worst, you do the same and change too by not including them in your life!
You owe it to yourself to only let the best in your world.
Making wise choices are a privilege we should use more often.
If someone is helping you, loving; keep them around for a while.
If life was a big brick of Cheddar the bad people are like mold on cheese. Watch out because that “mold” could spread on you and ruin the whole piece!
(People love that one when I tell them! I love picturesque analogies. You remember them!)
Sometimes blood relatives suck blood instead of offering health promoting benefits. If you are sick when you see someone, don’t see them. If the person upsets you uncontrollably-don’t see them. If you have ulcers and cannot afford the ulcer medicine, like I once had-remove the source of the ulcer! I did and I was related to 3 of them! I tell you not because I am flaunting this fact, but because I want to “liberate you” to know it is perfectly fine to not associate with someone-family or not.
When I looked up the meaning of “family” in the Webster Dictionary, I was astonished to see so many variations of the word. For purposes here, I like this basic definition:
“A people or group of people united by certain convictions.”
Although this one fits the general term we think of as a family unit:
“The basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children.”
If you find that you are always agitated, upset emotionally when you are around someone-simply remove them. It is OK. No horrible repercussions will happen from doing do, other than you exercising your right to be an adult.
By the same token, associate more with those who value what you value, care about what you care about and don’t have a selfish mentality to only focus on them.
Almost three pages later and 600 words later, I am searching for the words that will sum up this article.
Everything has a chain reaction. Make every action positive in your life, including the people you associate with and the activities you do, as well as the words you say. By making a conscious effort to do the things outlined here, as well as employing positive self-talk and not allowing negative, self-talk or words to materialize, you will be editing your life.
I was married to a rocket scientist for 15 years and I think I am still part “engineer”. Engineers are modest people who always think of what they do in terms of “one of the group”, never taking credit for anything really.
I remember when I graduated at the top of my class at Chapman University in their Master’s Certification program in 1997. I was selected by my peers to run a class at The Summit Meeting 1997 that year. People paid $250 each to hear me speak and teach about what epilepsy was and wasn’t, how you acquire it and about the many falsehoods. I was the CEO & Founder of The Epilepsy Connection at the time. I created a PowerPoint Presentation with animations and had an overhead with transparencies that illustrated the many psychological aspects a person deals with when they have the invisible disorder.
In order to say the main points and to create the thing, I remember Mark-my ex-husband the rocket scientist, telling me-
“Do it this way instead: Cross off everything that is false and you will be left with the truth.”
I was doing it the opposite way but after he said that, I couldn’t believe how easy it was to arrive at the main points I wanted people to walk out of there with.
I say this because; you want to represent the truth and purity of intention with no hypocrisy or manipulative people around you. When you think you have found anything other than the truth and the best it can offer, edit it, so you will always be left with the truth, and what represents you the best.
As for the presentation I did for the people at Chapman U. I told them that a “friend of mine” had the disorder and I know I could help others who had it.
At the end of the presentation, I told them “The friend was me.”
People had tears in their eyes, and many did a standing ovation, and came and looked at me saying, “I never would have known!”
I looked back and said, “I know. People with epilepsy can do anything anyone else can and anyone at any age can acquire it by a fever, convulsions or a coma or a blow on the head. I had all of those things and nearly died before my second birthday. I have nearly died 4 times in my life and only want the best of the world to come my way and give the best back as long as I live.

 

 

 

 

 

 

You’ll never find a rainbow if you’re looking down. – Charlie Chaplin

“You’ll never find a rainbow if you’re looking down” –

Charlie Chaplin

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Photo by Paulette L. Motzko Photography

When was the last time you “found a rainbow” in an unlikely place, meaning just found someoneone who touched you in a special way or came across something meaningful or positive or touching in a seeming ordinary situation?

Written by Paulette L. Motzko
Copyright January 2014

10:56 p.m.

The biggest handicap in the world is negative thinking. – Heather Whitestone

“Our attitudes are the single biggest asset we will ever carry around with us. It is even more valuable than the money in your wallet. Why? Because you can have all the money in the world and squander it or not be good to others.
The person with a winning attitude will make the most out of whatever situation they’re in, rich or not.”- Paulette Motzko

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Written by Paulette L. Motzko
January 16th, 2014
January 17th, 2014

Copyright January 2014

11:07 a.m.

Paulette L. Motzko’s Wishes For 2014 For Everyone & Herself

I wish everyone and myself health firstly…of body, mind and spirit, because without that it makes it difficult to do anything else or enjoy life to the fullest.

I hope everybody finds work, if they are not working and that it is doing something they love.

I also hope that you can more than pay your bills but know financial independence.

I want everyone reading this to have health of mind, body and spirit and to not know pain.

I hope that in spite of life giving you not what you wanted you are doing the most with what it gave you.

I hope opportunities know on your door without you even trying to find them and that you attract wonderful, capable positive people to you and you repel the bad ones like water on Vaseline.

If you have been out of work for a long time, like so many people I talk to each day, try something totally new that IS HIRING AND DO YOUR BEST AT IT. REMEMBER, it doesn’t have to be your best job, or the perfect job but A JOB THAT PAYS MONEY, and that is BETTER THAN NO JOB at all!

When you want to change your job you need to change your attitude to get it!

Remember that the most valuable thing you will ever carry around with you is your attitude and your values and your integrity.

I did it so I know.

Here is an example: I was a master piano teacher for 20 years-teaching students from six years old to 86. I became the minority in a predominantly Vietnamese town called Little Saigon. I was told “we don’t want a white teacher”, which as we all know is a racist statement, but people were repeating that comment without thought of teaching their children hatred and how anti-American it was!

Over time I re-created myself. I took stock of what I could do best and what I loved.

That is what I would ask you to do first, whether you are happily employed or not. Opportunities will surface and everyone can use to embellish their lives by making it more full of experiences that are memorable.

I wish you all to always keep learning and growing as a person.

Never think you are better than anyone else; you aren’t.

We all share commonalities with eachother:

1. We all had parents-even if you were adopted, you had parents but for whatever reason, they weren’t able to raise you. 

2. We all know loss

3. We have all cried

4. We all eat food and have most have tried a hamburger once in their lifetime

 5. We all love music and can usually find at least one song we love

I wish our leaders would think like this and start finding commonalities with our adversaries so we can find a common denominator that we can agree on.  Wouldn’t that be better than buying more bombs and spending billions on keeping our military heroes in areas where they could be killed or harmed?

I hope and pray to the Great Spirit and God that everybody feels a little better after reading this, and sees one opportunity they didn’t see before they read it. If they did, then my goal of writing it was accomplished.

My six personal goals for 2014 are:

1. Get a home of my own or at least a nice apartment

2. See my mother Ramona Lea Le Pore any time I want to for as long as I want to

3. I never have to worry about money as long as I live

4. My pills for epilepsy continue working forever so I can keep doing what I do and keep getting better at it for many years to come.

5. I can work to get more funding for the housing programs in CA where I live and also see to it that no veteran goes homeless. That is a travesty for what they gave for our country to be free. I also want to see that every disabled person-like myself-invisible disability or not-has a place to live in dignity.

6. Continue finishing my books and get them into print so the world can read and enjoy the benefits from them.

 

What are your personal wishes for 2014?

 

 

 

 

 

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Moi at my favorite Starbucks in Huntington Beach…in my favorite window seat…..

Thank you to the 500 Wonderful, Intelligent, Loving & Caring Followers on Totally Inspired Mind-Happy Thanksgiving!

Have a peaceful and happy Thanksgiving everybody!
Remember it isn’t important how lumpy your gravy is that goes with the turkey, but that you are blessed enough to have turkey to eat.

Nobody cares about the dust on your furniture but sitting with you on the couch or chair and talking and visiting with YOU.

You don’t have to be a carbon copy of Martha Stewart (I hope there aren’t any walking around anywhere!), but listen to your inner voice and be true to yourself. Do what you can afford, not what your neighbor does.

Life isn’t a contest or a relay race.

Slow down.

Smile more.

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If you can’t be with your family, be with loved ones around you who care about you, support you in act, word and deed.

Look around your table, instead of what’s on the table.

Hold hands.

Pray in your own way.

Say you love the one who is sitting with you.
If you have nobody to celebrate with, as I almost did, until my friend Mike Darras called and invited me to a wonderful turkey dinner….volunteer in a senior home to help in cook or serve or do something. You will be appreciated and nobody will eat alone.

If there were a table that would seat all the followers of this site…or a room that would seat all of you, it would be a huge ampitheater.

Thank you all for being dedicated readers of what I create.

I am thankful God gave me many talents of writing, photography and cooking and I am thankful for all 500 of you my readers.

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God bless you all.

Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Copyright 2013
November 27th, 2013

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If You Wish To Be a Pencil To Write Someone’s Happiness, Then Try To Be a Nice Eraser To Remove Some of The Sadness

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We can make bigger impacts on other people’s lives than you might guess. For instance, when you are in a store next time:

Pay attention to the people waiting on you, working for you, unpacking boxes, lifting and doing manuel labor. Ask them how they are doing and don’t just create elevator talk, but genuinely care. Don’t ask the question, unless you genuinely want to know!

People can tell who is a good person, who is kind, who is caring and compassionate. I can. That is because I learned those qualities when I was very young, as a very sickly kid who was diagnosed with a strange diagnosis-epilepsy- of which no medicine was working. I learned who was a kind person quickly and I learned big words quickly and how to read medical journals etc.

So when it comes to caring about other people, when I ask someone a question like “how are you” with a smile, I mean it.
Watch what happens next time you ask the people you work with that question and just do something nice for no reason, other than you can.

Those times makes people’s days, and sometimes, your small act could be a huge thing to that person.

Do more and the world will give back to you.

Paulette Le Pore Motzko

November 3rd, 2013

1:06 a.m.

CDT 2014 – Sara an Amazing, Courageous and Inspiring Young Lady!

The three photos after this story were Sara’s and I fell in love with the poignant quotes on the photos and the beautiful scenery in the photo. I had no idea that Sara was facing living with melanoma, and traumatic brain injury, but her words are filled with life and the living and of hope.

I couldn’t resist sharing her story with you.

Paulette Le Pore Motzko

Creator & Editor in Chief of Totally Inspired Mind: Where Positive Minds Congregate

Man’s Real Life is Happy, Chiefly Because He is Ever Expecting That it Soon Will Be

“Man’s real life is happy, chiefly because he is ever expecting that it soon will be so.” – Edgar Allan Poe

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My mother Ramona use to tell me when I was a small child
“Whatever you believe you can do you will do. Envision yourself successful and you will be. Work as hard as you possibly can on every task you do, and you will be successful at it, whatever it may be.” Mom was right and I think of her many times every day as I am living proof that what she told me was fact. Shoot to be the top in everything you do, and try to be the best at it. Any job that is worth doing, is worth doing well.”

As Edgar Allen Poe said in his words about Man being happy largely due to him believing he will be, he was right.

Whether you are a man, woman or child, your attutude and the words you tell yourself outloud or subconsciously can bring you up so you reach the stars in the sky, or they can drop you in a depressing revene it will take some work & determination to get out of.

Choose your friends carefully and avoid negative, hurtful “family” members that only bring you down.

Remember this when evaluating who to keep in your life and who to avoid:

Family is who loves you, cares about your welfare, includes you, remembers you, worries about you and would miss you if you weren’t there.

Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Copyright September 25th, 2013
11:56 p.m.

Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez-Tower of Strength, Fountain of Wisdom

Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez

Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko

July 12th, 2013

9:32 p.m.

 

Yesterday when I went to eat lunch at Food 4 Less after writing a proposal for photos, feature story and to be a moderator of a client’s awesome restaurant-I met Emelia Laugier Rodriguez.

She was sitting across from her daughter Evelyn, who were enjoying something I remembered giving me so much joy was the mother-daughter time I enjoyed with my mom. I will enjoy it again, after I tell my sister Brenda Bunker, that mothers are meant to be loved and not held hostage and to allow mom to see all of her children, especially the one-me-she lived next to for 13 years!

Back to the star of the show in this article, Emilia Lauqier Rodriguez. What caught my eye about her, was I TOOK A DOUBLE TAKE AT HER BECAUSE SHE LOOKS LIKE MY MOM’S MOM RUBY HART IN HER LATER YEARS.

Her hair color, profile, sweet nature and smile were all reminiscent of “Grandma” as we all called her. My dad’s mother was always “Nanny” because she was divorced when she was 50 years old (about what I am now), and didn’t want to be called “Grandma”!<

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We began talking and to my surprise, Emelia turned out to be a real tower of strength and wisdom, just like my dear Grandma (now in heaven with Nanny and now my father Ernest Carl Le Pore as of last September 2012.) I know if Mom was across from her she would see the uncanny resemblance and think she looked like her mom.

Emelia had 8 children, which to me deserved an award in just the childbirths alone!

Her father was French and her husband Spanish.

She survived two mastectomies and had some cancer that had been removed off her nose as well. When she touched herself in her house dress she said, “Look, I have nothing here now,” but they got it all. I am fine now.

As an observer, I never in a million years would have believed she had two mastectomies, because it wasn’t apparent to me. It was surprising when she disclosed that!

What a trooper and what a hero that she came over the other side of a tragedy that might have demoralized someone of a lesser character.

I proposed the concept of doing an interview with her having her share the things she did right with the world. She liked the idea. I usually bring some kind of computer with me and mine was doing updates on the table and never seemed to get done with them. I kept waiting for the silly computer to get finished with its business but then she began talking and telling me her “story”…..

So, just as in days of old, I picked up my pen and paper and forgot for a moment I could type 80 w.p.m. and began writing what she said.

These are a few of the things I learned from an extraordinary lady named Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez:

Q: Of all the things you’ve learned in life what is the most important?

A: I learned how to be obedient and respect other people. To respect and be respectful.

Another saying her mother told her, which is very similar to one my mother told me is:

“Tell me who you’re with and I will tell you who you are.”

My mother Ramona Hart Le Pore’s advice when I was a child was:

“Choose your friends very carefully because you will end up just like them if you are not careful.”

Of the many jobs that Emelia did throughout her lifetime were:

Laying roof tiles making candles in a factory, waitressing, maid service and in the town in Rico she lived in she drove the local children to and from school so they wouldn’t have to walk so far.

Some of the things that Emelia Rodriguez does every day that help her stay lucid, active and keep her centered are:

  1. She loves doing word search puzzles
  2. She cleans her house and mops the floor and stays active because she enjoys doing it herself and it gives her exercise, as she says.
  3. She refuses to use a walker or cane and wants to stay active as long as she is alive. That was the same attitude that kept my Nanny going strong until her later years. Her attitude was “I want to keep using it so I don’t lose it later on!”
  4. She prays for the safety and health of all her children every day.
  5. She doesn’t wish wrong or bad things to happen to anyone

What advice would you give to new mothers?

A: Be a good mother. Do onto others as you would want others to do to you. Do good and don’t look back.

If more people brought to life the kind of resilience and stamina and courage that Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez exhibited in our short conversation, this would be a way better world.

How many pointers can you put to use and what can you and I both learn from Emelia Rodriguez?

I learned that no matter what you have in life and how you are brought up, no matter if you have what some would consider nothing, it is the person that succeeds. We are 95% attitude and the rest is our physical body and soul. You can correct the soul part to suit how religious you are.

Thank you to Emelia for allowing me to talk with you.

It was an honor to meet you and your wonderful daughter Evelyn.

Paulette Le Pore Motzko

July 12th 2013

Emelia swears by doing at least one crossword puzzle a day or word search puzzle each day.
My dad did that and so did my Nanny and it helped their cognitive ability, memory function, not to mention just being fun!

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Emelia on her wedding day. She looks so much like her daughter Evelyn, if she had dark hair! Back when times were more simple, cell phones and satellites were just a dream in some inventor’s eye.

“Do What Works …

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“Do What Works and Avoid What Doesn’t-The Best Motto to Remember in Life.”-

Paulette Le Pore Motzko

If you pay attention to the things you have done in life that has produced a positive outcome and then continue doing it and avoid making the same mistake again, you can adjust what you do like a sailor on the sea adjusts the sails or the rudder. In life, you seldom know what will be thrown at you, as in my life at this time. The successful person adapts and adjusts as the circumstances around them change.

Paulette Le Pore Motzko

March 3rd, 2013

Every Time You Subtract Negative From Your Life You Make Room For Positive

Every Time You Subtract Negative From Your Life You Make Room For Positive

This was the creed I went by when I eliminated anyone or anything who was abusive, manipulative or who I felt had anything other than genuine good intentions from my life. It removed 4 family members, but they weren’t good for much any way.
Family is who includes you
Remembers you
Cares about you
Asks “How Are You” on a regular basis
And knows about your life and what you are doing, and cares enough to ask.

Going by this simple creed, you will eliminate years of psychotherapy. 🙂

Bad people are like a lead weight you carry around on your leg, or a ball and chain. When you remove them, you will find you feel lighter, happier and healthier.

I know. I did just that.

Paulette Motzko

Paulette Le Pore Motzko
December 28th, 2012

You Direct Your Attention to What You Want-Like a Flashlight Shines a Beam of Light

“Your perspective and viewpoint in life is like a flash light. What you see depends on where you aim the beam of light. You can see only darkness or see the light. Always look for the positive in any situation because that is the “light”. You could say that the negative side of life is the “dark side”-kind of like Star Wars, I guess. (Was not shooting for that analogy, but I think you get the idea.)

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Paulette Le Pore Motzko

I felt like I was Robert Frost when on a spin of "The Road Less Traveled" only I had only a few minutes to get the best shot from the vantage point I was standing. (I was at a bus stop waiting to go back to Westminster from the Huntington Harbor area.} It looked awful when I took it then looked much better on the computer screen.

I felt like I was Robert Frost when on a spin of “The Road Less Traveled” only I had only a few minutes to get the best shot from the vantage point I was standing. (I was at a bus stop waiting to go back to Westminster from the Huntington Harbor area.} It looked awful when I took it then looked much better on the computer screen.