How Do You Define The Concept of Success: Jobs, Careers & Reflections
by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Copyright Feb 11th, 2013, March 25th, 2013
Success can be defined in a myriad of ways. I personally think the true definition of success has anything to do with money, fame, power or the typical powers we hear on TV and in magazines. It is what you leave behind from this world, and in qualities like honesty, integrity, compassion, generosity, and in following through with what you tell people. Those possessions are worth more than all the gold on earth. After all, we are people dealing with people and superficiality can be spotted in a flash second if you possess the qualities I just mentioned.
I think the longer you live and the more you deal with people, you develop a kind of sense about people that comes with age and time.
For instance, I was married to a real rocket scientist who over time was not a happy man, It had nothing to do with me but something that the best counselors couldn’t figure out. Then one day he snapped and the suicidal behaviors I was warning people about happened. After many attempts he failed and he called me when I was staying in a hotel room, and after many hours I got him to the best place I could find that would help him until he got stronger. In time he moved on and was supported by his company and has now remarried. I will always wish him well and remember the good times we had. After all, fifteen years is a long time to be with someone. He was successful, he had a 6 bedroom house butted up against the Wasatch mountains, he was the top of his field and still wasn’t happy. I have known others like him who supposedly “had it all” and weren’t happy.
Yet, on the flip side I think of my dear Nanny, who lived in poverty by all good standards and yet she was always happy, content and never complained about any thing. She prayed every day, had two pans to her name yet made the biggest feasts you would ever eat. I wish she was here now because she would frown at my siblings fighting over the house I used to live in (that they sold and threw me out of in April!)
I may struggle to earn a living at times and have health problems I take medicine for, but I have integrity and a soul and my siblings do not. They are dead above he neck and use selective memory to remember only what they want to.
If Nanny was alive she would remind them of her son, my father who looks down on us all and though he was a poor man who worked his whole life, he tried and worked to put us all number one with my mother when I was growing up. That is the dad I will always remember.
For instance, I was raised in a family where we blessed the food we had, sat around a picnic table my mom painted, instead of a fancy one that came out of a furniture store. I miss that picnic table though to this day and think fondly of it. Why? The reason I miss it is: We all sat together and passed the food that my dad and mom-who was a waitress then worked so hard for and assembled as though it was an orchestra, with my Nanny helping cook it. There was always enough to go around and then a few leftovers besides. Dad said one day to us, “I want to give you kids everything my father never gave me.” I only ask that you get good grades, do good in school and get a college education. I never got an education and you would make me proud.” He did put us all number one and though he was far from the richest guy, he taught me about working hard and values. I have always put people first and things second. I hope that my siblings one day realize that they can argue about getting the money from what is now my mother’s house, but they only have one sister and I am refusing to listen to the insults they cast my way any longer.
You see, I am the youngest and they are all substantially older than I. It is not true that those who are older are wiser, and it is not true that those who are disabled cannot accomplish what a person who is not can. I earned two college degrees and maintained the honor roll and health gave me a new life.
I proved both of those wrong because I accomplished more than any of them did with far less, and not having health on my side for much of my life. Only when Tegretol was released and I became one of the test models on it, when I was 14 for complex partial epilepsy did I know what seizure free meant. After that, the sky was the limit! My attendance rate in high school went up and a 4.0 GPA finally became easy because I wasn’t struggling for what was easy for others any longer. I made the Honor Roll and Dean’s List at Garden Grove High then got an Associate of Arts in Piano Pedagogy at Golden West College and was also on the Honor Roll & Dean’s List, which was a major accomplishment for me. Then later, when I was the CEO & Founder of The Epilepsy Connection, wanting to go for the 501c3 tax status to make the organization nationwide, I graduated from the Master’s Certification Program at Chapman University.
I will be arranging a meeting with some congress people to improve the HUD Housing Program or scrap it entirely for something better so disabled people and veterans who gave their minds and bodies to defend our country-America-can live safely out of harm’s way.
Since the initial time this piece was written I guess you could say I have been hardened a bit and my story didn’t end like I wanted it to, but I will be alright.
Peace is something I long for now with a move on the horizon.
I delight in knowing I didn’t do what they did to my mother or her property, just because they thought she would never know because she has Alzheimer’s disease.
When I look back on my life, I think I have been successful with what I have been dealt in life and I know God gave me far more than he took from me.
This site was nominated for 3 awards, in spite of all the garbage thrown my way. I know things will get better. I have to make a decision on where I will be living and I am not finished yet here. If I improve things for me, I will improve living conditions for everybody and set a mandate on how things should be after I had something to do with it.
Success is a difficult one to define because it involved so much more than money but also what kind of individual you are and what kind of impact you are having on others. To leave something behind that is greater than yourself is to be successful in my humble opinion.
I wish people who came to the United States thought of what they could give to it instead of what they could take from it. We are allowing the rampant abuse to our welfare system. The moment it we don’t allow it, it will simply STOP.
We need to catch more FRAUD cases who abuse the benefits that were geared for American disabled people. Citizens of other countries cannot collect one benefit unless you are a citizen of that country. Why do we allow the raping and pillaging of ours, for God’s sake?
By doing that, people like myself and the countless I see on the bus each day and night suffer because those who it was intended for don’t get what they need.
I want to lobby in congress to change the way we do things. There is so much waste and negligence and apathy it disgusts me. I wish it didn’t, bu that is what makes me want to fix it.
Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Santa Ana CA
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