Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez
Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
July 12th, 2013
Yesterday when I went to eat lunch at Food 4 Less after writing a proposal for photos, feature story and to be a moderator of a client’s awesome restaurant-I met Emelia Laugier Rodriguez.
She was sitting across from her daughter Evelyn, who were enjoying something I remembered giving me so much joy was the mother-daughter time I enjoyed with my mom. I will enjoy it again, after I tell my sister Brenda Bunker, that mothers are meant to be loved and not held hostage and to allow mom to see all of her children, especially the one-me-she lived next to for 13 years!
Back to the star of the show in this article, Emilia Lauqier Rodriguez. What caught my eye about her, was I TOOK A DOUBLE TAKE AT HER BECAUSE SHE LOOKS LIKE MY MOM’S MOM RUBY HART IN HER LATER YEARS.
Her hair color, profile, sweet nature and smile were all reminiscent of “Grandma” as we all called her. My dad’s mother was always “Nanny” because she was divorced when she was 50 years old (about what I am now), and didn’t want to be called “Grandma”!<
We began talking and to my surprise, Emelia turned out to be a real tower of strength and wisdom, just like my dear Grandma (now in heaven with Nanny and now my father Ernest Carl Le Pore as of last September 2012.) I know if Mom was across from her she would see the uncanny resemblance and think she looked like her mom.
Emelia had 8 children, which to me deserved an award in just the childbirths alone!
Her father was French and her husband Spanish.
She survived two mastectomies and had some cancer that had been removed off her nose as well. When she touched herself in her house dress she said, “Look, I have nothing here now,” but they got it all. I am fine now.
As an observer, I never in a million years would have believed she had two mastectomies, because it wasn’t apparent to me. It was surprising when she disclosed that!
What a trooper and what a hero that she came over the other side of a tragedy that might have demoralized someone of a lesser character.
I proposed the concept of doing an interview with her having her share the things she did right with the world. She liked the idea. I usually bring some kind of computer with me and mine was doing updates on the table and never seemed to get done with them. I kept waiting for the silly computer to get finished with its business but then she began talking and telling me her “story”…..
So, just as in days of old, I picked up my pen and paper and forgot for a moment I could type 80 w.p.m. and began writing what she said.
These are a few of the things I learned from an extraordinary lady named Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez:
Q: Of all the things you’ve learned in life what is the most important?
A: I learned how to be obedient and respect other people. To respect and be respectful.
Another saying her mother told her, which is very similar to one my mother told me is:
“Tell me who you’re with and I will tell you who you are.”
My mother Ramona Hart Le Pore’s advice when I was a child was:
“Choose your friends very carefully because you will end up just like them if you are not careful.”
Of the many jobs that Emelia did throughout her lifetime were:
Laying roof tiles making candles in a factory, waitressing, maid service and in the town in Rico she lived in she drove the local children to and from school so they wouldn’t have to walk so far.
Some of the things that Emelia Rodriguez does every day that help her stay lucid, active and keep her centered are:
- She loves doing word search puzzles
- She cleans her house and mops the floor and stays active because she enjoys doing it herself and it gives her exercise, as she says.
- She refuses to use a walker or cane and wants to stay active as long as she is alive. That was the same attitude that kept my Nanny going strong until her later years. Her attitude was “I want to keep using it so I don’t lose it later on!”
- She prays for the safety and health of all her children every day.
- She doesn’t wish wrong or bad things to happen to anyone
What advice would you give to new mothers?
A: Be a good mother. Do onto others as you would want others to do to you. Do good and don’t look back.
If more people brought to life the kind of resilience and stamina and courage that Emelia Lauqier Rodriguez exhibited in our short conversation, this would be a way better world.
How many pointers can you put to use and what can you and I both learn from Emelia Rodriguez?
I learned that no matter what you have in life and how you are brought up, no matter if you have what some would consider nothing, it is the person that succeeds. We are 95% attitude and the rest is our physical body and soul. You can correct the soul part to suit how religious you are.
Thank you to Emelia for allowing me to talk with you.
It was an honor to meet you and your wonderful daughter Evelyn.
Paulette Le Pore Motzko
July 12th 2013
Emelia swears by doing at least one crossword puzzle a day or word search puzzle each day.
My dad did that and so did my Nanny and it helped their cognitive ability, memory function, not to mention just being fun!
Emelia on her wedding day. She looks so much like her daughter Evelyn, if she had dark hair! Back when times were more simple, cell phones and satellites were just a dream in some inventor’s eye.