In life you don’t always have to fight the big and small wars you encounter. You don’t always have to outdo or one up people. Sometimes it is just better to just move on and think before you speak and act and ask yourself:
1. What is the best outcome that will happen if I say this or do this?
2. Is this really worth my time?
3. What would happen if I didn’t do anything at all?
4. What is the worst that will happen if I ignore this entirely?
The last year has been really stressful on me, probably the worst in my life personally but the best in terms of what I have endured and accomplished. I can see from a wise perspective what to rate as important and what not to. You must always consider the source of your scrutiny and decide if it is worth you even getting upset about it. Nine times out of then, it is not worth a grain of salt. When the majority of the people in your life are supportive and positive, you simply cannot let the 3% or 4% that is left set you off-guard.
There are usually ten or more ways to approach any situation, and you will have to sit down and take time to analyze them. Also, meditate and pray-whichever applies, or both, to gain wisdom and peace and insight as well.
I am doing this where my siblings are concerned who have made my life a living hell for the last year, fighting over my mother’s property and treating me as though I don’t exist or at least am not a human being. They will have regrets one day for thoughtless words said and I will press forward and remove the negativity out of my life entirely. There comes a time when that is alright.
Many Christian religions would disagree with me but when you allow people who hurt you in your life again, you are exposing the most vulnerable side of you to be hurt again. If someone is verbally or physically abusive-simply extricate them. Any psychologist would agree with me on that. People who demand to be treated with respect are and the abuse ends when you don’t allow it any more.
I got rid of bleeding ulcers by removing 3 people out of my life several years ago. I couldn’t afford the $20 pills, so I simply removed the root of the problem!
I was married to a real rocket scientist for nearly 15 years and I became a bit like him in my logical thinking-which isn’t a bad thing. In life shoot for the easiest, most direct solution to your problem.
You cannot fight every war and some wars don’t deserve to be fought. You could spend that valuable thing called TIME doing something way more productive in your life like succeeding and reaching your goals.
That is what I am choosing to do here.
The rest of them can fight over the house like animals but I will always see my mother and care about her as long as I live. The best of who I am I owe to her.
Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Friday, March 22, 2013