Make Opportunities, Set Goals and Make it Happen.
Make a list of the problems that have been bugging you for the past month or week or year on a simple lined piece of paper.
(I know that computers exist and people type all the time like me typing this sentence. There is something about going back to simpler times of a pen and lined paper that makes this exercise more effective.)
Once you have your list compiled, begin writing and creating solutions to your problems like this:
1. Problem 1
2. Problem 2
3. Problem 3
That is enough to work with. Hopefully you don’t have more than 3 problems, if you do then press onward and keep itemizing them until the paper holds the baggage instead of your shoulders and mind.
Then under each number list the possible solutions like this in a, b, c, d, e, like an outline.
Look at the scenarios you created and choose the best, easiest, to-the-point solution that is the most effective without hurting another person or causing damage on another, that is!
If you have bleeding ulcers caused by a human being, then simply remove that person out of your life and try to find people who are more considerate to your well-being and thoughtful to you.
(I had that happen to me and couldn’t afford the ulcer pills which were $20 a piece, so I simply removed the root of the problem! Doing that removed 3 people out of my world, but I got better really quickly!)
If there are situations in your life that cause problems, list them all down and then do the same thing as in the prior exercise. Find solutions and then apply them in your world.
Things like this can take years of counseling and throw them out the window by simply believing in yourself enough to only associate with positive and loving people and anyone that drags you down or is verbally or physically damaging to you-simply wean yourself away from them permanently.
After all, you have one life to life and then we hope we contribute something positive and lasting to the world once we are gone. How can we do this unless we choose the best friends and care about ourselves enough to do that. The better we treat ourselves the better work we will do, and hence the more successful we will become. My mother taught me that years ago. God bless her Ramona Lea Le Pore.
I wouldn’t be “me” without her, which is why I will continue fighting for her welfare amidst hateful siblings who have their eye on money only and not much of anything else. They are blinded by dollar signs of cashing the house in and I only hope and pray all the proceeds go to my mother’s care for Alzheimer’s disease which is a whopping four thousand dollars a month!I will be moving to Tucson in a few weeks and will be living a better quality life there but I will not forget her and will make frequent trips here to southern CA to see her, my many friends I have built over the last 40 years and the many places I will miss once I am gone.
I know how outgoing I am and how quickly I make friends and the places I am looking at are far better for me than here and the resources for disabled people are far greater than here. I am always open for POSITIVE CHANGE AND YOU SHOULD BE TOO!
Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Monday, March 11th, 2013