Creating Balance in Your Life
Written by Paulette Le Pore Motzko
Copyright January 7th-8th, 2013
This piece is dedicated to my friend Frank and Ed and myself and all the workaholics who don’t take enough time out for themselves and for smiling and creating that simple thing called JOY in their lives. Life doesn’t last forever and along with working, we need time to take care of ourselves-the whole person-mind, body and spirit/soul.-
Too often we go through our day stumbling through our morning coffee, not taking time to meditate, say hello to those around us or even take time we think out what our priorities are.
I have always had a philosophy of “people first and things second” and I try to apply it throughout my day in any situation. For instance, I am a writer and I can work anywhere I take my laptop and Jetpack that connects me to the internet. I have places where I frequent where I know many of the people there and it is like a “club”. What people I don’t know I seem to meet and then fantastic things happen.
I am never too busy, even with earphones listening to a song on Pandora.com on one of the many stations I created there, or listening to an instrumental piece via my IPOD, to look around me and be aware of my surroundings. I will never ever wear an earpiece for any reason, and I believe many people have zoned out of their life to the world and the people around them using them. I realize that many jobs that require driving or other things, where you need to be “hands free” might require them. Even those, often don’t. I have seen people driving (as I am sitting waiting for the bus), waving their arms talking with one of those things, putting on mascara and holding conversations with themselves, looking like they are crazy. Wouldn’t it be better to simply drive? Have all one’s attention on the road; have all one’s reflexes paying attention to the lady or guy ahead of you or in back of you? Wouldn’t that increase your life span by increasing the odds you won’t get in an accident? That is how I think anyhow. It is only logical, and I was married to a real rocket scientist for nearly 15 years, so part of me thinks in that way now, which isn’t all bad.
Some things should be SACRED and you need to figure out what matters to you so you can preserve your integrity and your sanity. People make time for what and who matters to them, and to do this, you can either make the list using paper and a pen, or by using your trusty computer and a word processing program.
Define the things that you love doing and make sure you take time out for them every day. To begin with, a half hour might be all you can fit in. Gradually schedule an hour in, and I would greatly advocate more than that. This will lower your blood pressure, take some wrinkles off your forehead and let you have time to breathe easy, which is needed by everybody on the planet. Sure work is important, but if you aren’t having any fun and aren’t really “living” what is it all for? If all you are doing is work to keep up with the guy next door or outdo the other lady who is the fashionista. After all, who are you trying to impress?
I personally only am competing with myself and that is all. I read lots of books and magazines and know who the top of the food chain is in my business, and I want to impress them and others in the journalistic world. I also want to hopefully write words that help other or teach or inspire.
If I do that then it has been a good day.
Something I realized just last night that I need to create balance and harmony in my life is to set a mandate of no more than six hours a day to computer work. I will begin timing it and working smarter and working less. By doing this it will free up time for other avenues of my life that generate life and laughter and rest and rejuvenation, which is necessary for human life.
To figure out what you need to make you happy you have to think about what makes you “flourish” or as some say, “what make me tick” like a clock. I prefer the concept of a human being flourishing like a flower that needs water, soil and fertilizer to grow and bloom. Much like that flower, we need work, play, friends to do things with and share things with, and exercise and meditation and our spiritual life as well.
I just joined 24 Hour Fitness and I noticed how much better I felt and thought and how my attitude improved. I felt less lethargic and was getting compliments more often since I was going. The Adidas Tennis shoes and leggings I that I thought I didn’t look particular great in was the outfit I got the most compliments from! Funny how that works, isn’t it in life. I love walking by the sea or any other beautiful big open expanse. I can walk forever as long as I am looking at something extraordinary. The combination of the sea air, the people, the big expanse of blue invigorates my being and my very soul.
What makes you “come alive”?
What invigorates your soul?
Think about it. If you never did, it is a very fascinating and wonderful exercise.
I guarantee if you INVEST the TIME in YOURSELF you will reap the DIVIDENDS a thousandfold in the quality of your life.
Keep people around you that respect what is sacred to you. If they do not then they probably are not true friends. Once you make a list of the things you truly need to be happy, and then expand on it.
Make another greater list of the Projects and THINGS YOU WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT, OR CLASSES YOU WANT TO TAKE AND THINGS THAT GIVE ME JOY LIST.
What these things are called is “Self-Exploration” and the more you do it, the more you will accomplish in your life. For instance, when I work, I know what music helps me focus the best and I play it when I write. I also know what to avoid, and so I follow that. If you know that you work best in the early morning and are your most creative, then by all means, keep that schedule and KEEP IT SACRED.
If you know that you feel lousy if you don’t take your medicine, THEN BY ALL MEANS KNOW THAT YOU ARE NUMBER ONE AND TAKE IT AND SET LOUD ALARMS SO YOU WON’T FORGET IT. I was constantly telling my clients this when I was helping those with epilepsy as the CEO/Founder of The Epilepsy Connection and also as the Director of The Epilepsy Foundation in Orange County. I would change lives just by telling them to invest in a simple alarm watch!
Here is a model for creating balance in your life and I am going to do this right along with you this week!
Divide this into hour blocks and then you can see how much of each you are getting.
Work-6 hours-especially if you do computer work-so you don’t get carpel tunnel or arthritis!
Play/Things That Give You Joy-Preferably One Hour Minimum
Exercise-30 minutes minimum
Paulette Le Pore Motzko- Writer, Photographer, Cook, Composer, Marketer, Blogger
Photography by Jackie Teeple by Huntington Beach Pier, November 2012