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  1. I finally saw my dear mother Ramona Lea Le Pore today after long last. My brother in law and brother Bob brought her to a Subway in Moreno Valley and we were able to talk, hug each other and simply look at each other in the eye, and catch up on how the other had been doing.
    I didn’t have but a hurried hour to visit, give the presents I had designed for her and bought months ago. (This was by an unreasonable mandate set by Mike Bunker the current POA and POM, which didn’t allow my mother to talk to me because he has abused his right to be Power of Attorney on my mother’s behalf.
    I did enjoy my time with her, and saw just how much love she had in her eyes for me. The thing she was worried about was if I was OK, and I assured her I was doing fine, only I missed her.
    It is a major transition when you live next to someone for nearly 12 years, as I did with mom in the duplex my parents bought when I was 24 years old. I know in time mom will make friends, once we find a nice assisted living care place for people with dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. I want to see the place Bunker has in mind, and currently he is not disclosing anything.
    I am working with an attorney so i can make sure mom’s rights are guaranteed and that honesty and integrity are upheld, which has run been forgotten in my other siblings. I have always been a “big picture thinker”, thinking about the greater good for all, and the other 4 are thinking of the one or quick pay offs to the Le Pore house.
    I wanted two parents together and happy and healthy, and now I have only a picture in a frame of the two of them long ago. It is sad but I am happy when I see older couples still together and even more so when I see both of them walking together. My folks didn’t have that luxury, with dad being crippled in a wheelchair toward the end of his life.
    You never know what you are getting in life, but you can surely mold and make choices that won’t give you regrets, as I try to do. I don’t want to say one day, “I wish I would have done this or that for mom”, which is why I am fighting for her with the voice she no longer has for herself, God bless her.
    When I took care of her mother Ruby Hart when mom was ill years ago, she had Alzheimer’s Disease and it was advanced. I pray it never gets as bad as hers did-hear me Lord? I remember walking a mile to the local Alzheimer’s Association in Orange where I lived at the time. I volunteered my time and read all the flyers as I put together information packets for them. I think I will give them a call and talk to them about mom. I think writing this article/blog posting was the best thing I did all day. I forgot what an information store house they are. I know they could help me in the things I am dealing with.
    In wrapping this post up I will say to you, enjoy those you love and it really doesn’t matter about the gifts, wrapping paper, baubles or bangles or anything else other than the warmth of those you love around you. Tell everybody you love that you love them and hug them more than once this year!

    There might come a time in the future that you will wish you had told them more often.
    Paulette Le Pore Motzko
    December 20, 2012
    1:13 a.m.